That was the impression I got too. Small blessings, I guess.
[At least Fern has a chance for a happier life here. Elliot will take that.]
Play it by ear is a completely valid option, I think. You don't need to decide right away what to do. Some decisions are better left giving long and careful thought.
It wasn't, actually. I'd even still tell him things, I don't think he believed me half the time, but he was still always happy to listen. [Elliot couldn't keep a secret from Rean if his life depended on it anyway] But our situation is a little different. Rean and I knew each other for years before the app came into our lives. Maybe it brought us back together after we had drifted apart for a few years, but it's not what defined our relationship.
Yeah, I definitely don't wanna rush into anything. I want to be careful with it.
Oh. That's good to know, I guess? I was a little worried if I talked too much about it, it might freak him or or...something. I don't know. But...yeah. Me and Fern are from completely different worlds. Only being in this place united us, so it's definitely different than you and Rean.
Guess I'll just have to see where it goes. But seriously, thanks, Elliot, it really helps to speak to someone who's been through it too.
Well, Fern and Rean aren't the same person, but... I think it's worth at least trying to talk to him about it. It's not much of a relationship if you have to hide things from your partner all the time, you know?
Haha, well I'm not sure I did much... but I hope it helps anyway.
And listen, if you decide to continue dating Fern and you two work it out, that's great! But it's also alright if it doesn't work out. Both you and Fern are young and figuring yourselves out. In this day and age, it's pretty normal for couples your age to break up. I mean, Rean wasn't my first boyfriend and I bet Rean's had dates with other people. Sometimes it just works out that way.
[Whether Rean ever REALIZED they were dates is a whole other matter...but still!! Kinda sorta counts???]
[He considers this. Elliot makes great points. He got it right, Varian wants to find a solution to this that'll get resolved quickly but he knows, he knows that's not possible. No matter how much he wants it. Hell, it might not ever be resolved at all, and he has to accept that as a possibility.]
Yeah. Of course. Talking is- it's a good idea.
Honestly, just having someone to talk to about this helps SO much. This is so far out of my usual remit.
[And that's...not exactly what he wanted to hear but it's definitely what he needed to hear. He's felt pressure he should keep this up. That you just stick with the one person and that's that. Being told it's okay if it doesn't work does ease some of that pressure.]
That makes a lot of sense. I still care about him so much and I really want try and make this work. But... I guess it helps to know I can step away if I need to, as well? Like it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world if I did. Even if I'm pretty sure it'd suck a lot.
Haha, unfortunately for everyone who feels anxiety, talking to one another is usually the best way to handle situations like this.
[Yeah he's sure it's not exactly what Varian wanted to hear, but Elliot at the end of the day tended to be a realistic person. And it's pretty realistic for teen couples to not last... and that was okay]
Yeah, exactly. Go ahead and try to give it your best, but there's also nothing wrong with stepping away if that's the best option. This isn't the 1800's, it's pretty normal for people to break up in this day and age.
Still, whatever you do? You'll have my support Varian.
Well on that end, I'd say you've made a lot of progress.
[The kid's grown up a lot in the year he's known him, even if there's been the occasional growing pain]
Ehe, I get it. You did come from a time period where divorce was pretty much illegal and all, but things have changed a lot since then. You have plenty of time to figure all this stuff out and what will make you happy.
Anytime Varian. Just take it easy okay? Eat some of your dad's comforting food I'm sure he's cooking up, and do something soothing tonight.
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[At least Fern has a chance for a happier life here. Elliot will take that.]
Play it by ear is a completely valid option, I think. You don't need to decide right away what to do. Some decisions are better left giving long and careful thought.
It wasn't, actually. I'd even still tell him things, I don't think he believed me half the time, but he was still always happy to listen. [Elliot couldn't keep a secret from Rean if his life depended on it anyway] But our situation is a little different. Rean and I knew each other for years before the app came into our lives. Maybe it brought us back together after we had drifted apart for a few years, but it's not what defined our relationship.
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Oh. That's good to know, I guess? I was a little worried if I talked too much about it, it might freak him or or...something. I don't know. But...yeah. Me and Fern are from completely different worlds. Only being in this place united us, so it's definitely different than you and Rean.
Guess I'll just have to see where it goes. But seriously, thanks, Elliot, it really helps to speak to someone who's been through it too.
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Well, Fern and Rean aren't the same person, but... I think it's worth at least trying to talk to him about it. It's not much of a relationship if you have to hide things from your partner all the time, you know?
Haha, well I'm not sure I did much... but I hope it helps anyway.
And listen, if you decide to continue dating Fern and you two work it out, that's great! But it's also alright if it doesn't work out. Both you and Fern are young and figuring yourselves out. In this day and age, it's pretty normal for couples your age to break up. I mean, Rean wasn't my first boyfriend and I bet Rean's had dates with other people. Sometimes it just works out that way.
[Whether Rean ever REALIZED they were dates is a whole other matter...but still!! Kinda sorta counts???]
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Yeah. Of course. Talking is- it's a good idea.
Honestly, just having someone to talk to about this helps SO much. This is so far out of my usual remit.
[And that's...not exactly what he wanted to hear but it's definitely what he needed to hear. He's felt pressure he should keep this up. That you just stick with the one person and that's that. Being told it's okay if it doesn't work does ease some of that pressure.]
That makes a lot of sense. I still care about him so much and I really want try and make this work. But... I guess it helps to know I can step away if I need to, as well? Like it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world if I did. Even if I'm pretty sure it'd suck a lot.
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[Yeah he's sure it's not exactly what Varian wanted to hear, but Elliot at the end of the day tended to be a realistic person. And it's pretty realistic for teen couples to not last... and that was okay]
Yeah, exactly. Go ahead and try to give it your best, but there's also nothing wrong with stepping away if that's the best option. This isn't the 1800's, it's pretty normal for people to break up in this day and age.
Still, whatever you do? You'll have my support Varian.
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[Instead of letting stuff fester until he explodes and tries to take out a monarchy! ]
That's true, I'll bear that in mind. The- normal for this time period kinda thing. It's comforting to have the reminder sometimes.
I really appreciate that, thanks Elliot.
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[The kid's grown up a lot in the year he's known him, even if there's been the occasional growing pain]
Ehe, I get it. You did come from a time period where divorce was pretty much illegal and all, but things have changed a lot since then. You have plenty of time to figure all this stuff out and what will make you happy.
Anytime Varian. Just take it easy okay? Eat some of your dad's comforting food I'm sure he's cooking up, and do something soothing tonight.
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[He's been trying his level best!]
Yeah! It definitely wasn't something you could just DO, y'know? But it's good to know I've got time to work it out.
You better believe he is. I'm gonna eat that and then curl up with a good book.
[Just Not Think ABout It for a couple of hours.]
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Take care, Varian! I'll see you in school, okay?
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